Welcome, you are the most sought
after people in the swinging scene!
You can afford to be choosy, and
pick the person or people you want to play with.
If you advertise on an internet
site you will probably be hit with over 400
emails a day, so be prepared to do a lot of
reading. When you place your ad explain exactly
what you are looking for, even eye/hair colour,
some guys do read the ads before responding, but
many just send a standard response to every girl
and couple who advertise in the hope that
someone somewhere will want them. If you are
happy to respond to all the emails say so in the
ad, if you will not be responding to some people
- those with no photo, those who have brown eyes
when you asked for blue etc. - say so in the
ad.
Be honest, and keep to your
word. Describe yourself accurately. If you are a
size 16, say so, don't pretend that you are a
size 12-14. Guys are not quite so stupid that on
meeting you they will not realize. You will also
find that there is a big demand for larger
girls.
If you say in your ad that all
emails will be answered, answer them, even if
just a "no thanks, not this time", many
sites such as Camposol Swingers have a pre written
email, and you simply have to click "no thanks"
if you decide you do not want to meet a person.
If you do find someone you want
to meet make sure you do so in a safe
environment, not at that persons house. Meet in
a pub, hotel lounge or swingers club, make sure
you are happy with them in a social setting
before making arrangements to meet them in
private. If they say they are a couple talk to
both people on their telephone, make a note of
their number - you must make sure that you talk
to both of them, do not accept excuses that the
partner is late home from work, putting the kids
to bed, nursing a dying mother or shagging the
local football team, if you cannot talk to them,
they probably do not exist, or are not aware of
the situation..
When you leave home make sure
someone knows where you are going, leave a
sealed envelope to be opened if you do not ring
in by a certain time, in it put the email
addresses, telephone number and location of the
meeting, its better to be safe and embarrassed
than dead.
Whoever you are going to meet
remember that although its scary, the other
people will be as nervous as you. Don't get
drunk or drugged up. No once fancies people who
are not in control of their faculties. A drink
to steady the nerves is OK, bouncing off the
walls and throwing up is not going to impress
anyone.