What are the risks in Swinging?
Swinging per se is not dangerous, rather a fulfilling and enjoyable lifestyle, but as with almost everything we do in life, there are risks in being a swinger. Just as with our other activities, we can lessen the risks by taking a few simple steps.
What if my partner runs off with someone else?
Swinging will not increase the chances of your partner leaving you, in fact by being open and honest with each other about your sexual needs and fantasies, and working your partner to explore all your fantasies, you will decrease the chances of them looking for sexual releases elsewhere.
Sex is not usually the major driving factor in relationship breakdown. It is more often a failure to communicate.
Most swinging relationships that do break down are actually where the players have come into the scene hoping that swinging would fix their relationship.
What if I catch a STD?
Research carried out by doctors in the USA have found that despite a majority of swingers not using a condom, STD´s (Sexually transmitted diseases) have a lower incidence in the swinging community than in the general population.
Again it comes down to being honest. If a swinger contracts a STD they will almost always know who they played with to contract it, and who they have played with since. If a person outside the scene catches an infection it is usually as the result of a one night stand with someone picked up when drunk in a bar or club.
Swingers will also alert the people they have played with so that they can all get treated, the casual pick up is often someone who cannot be contacted, and will go on to spread their infection on their next one night stand.
No one is going to stop you using a condom. If a person refuses to use one, just say NO.
What if the person I meet is dangerous?
The speed with which people are now able to make contact with, and arrange to meet is increasing the chances of being attacked by violent partners.
Reduce the risk of anything happening to you by following a few simple steps.
- Never meet a new contact at your home, their home or a hotel room. Meet in a bar, or a swingers club, where you can chat and get to know each other. If you then have doubts you can walk away in safety.
- Always insist on talking to the person on a telephone, so that you can make a note of it. If a person is not willing to give a number, they are almost certainly not a genuine swinger. They will probably be someone cheating on their spouse. If they are lying to a spouse, they are almost certainly lying to you as well.
- Leave a sealed letter with a friend or at home with all the details of who you are meeting, where you are meeting, and the telephone number, chat ID and email address of the person you are going to meet. Then should something happen they will be able to start looking for you.
What if I fall in love with a swinger?
If the person is a single, and so are you; and if the feelings are reciprocated then congratulations.
If the person is married, don't tell them you love them, as you are likely to find yourself short of a lover. married swingers are not there to satisfy the needs of singles, they are playing with you to satisfy the fantasies that they and their spouse want to explore.
Remember that love and sex are not linked. The claim that one leads to the other, or that you can only have great sex if you love someone is a falsehood. Many relationships survive with only love, where for one reason or another sex is not an option. Just as many longstanding relationships are purely sexual, and are as fulfilling as one based on love.